Setbacks and failures are a natural part of the journey towards our goals. Whether a rejection in a job application, a failed exam, or a missed opportunity, we all experience setbacks and failures at some point in our lives.

However, it’s how we deal with these challenges that determines whether we will ultimately be successful or not. In his book “Destiny of Choice”, Nitin explores the importance of staying motivated and persistent in facing setbacks and failures and offers strategies for overcoming obstacles and achieving success.

Strategies from Destiny of Choice to overcome setbacks and failures

One key concept that Nitin touches upon is the idea of “destiny”. Our belief in whether we are in control of our own destiny or not can greatly affect our outlook on setbacks and failures. If we believe that we are in control of our destiny, we are more likely to see setbacks and failures as temporary setbacks we can overcome through our efforts. On the other hand, if we believe that our destiny is predetermined and that setbacks and failures are simply a part of our fate, we may be more prone to giving up or feeling defeated. The author suggests that by adopting a belief in personal responsibility and agency, we can stay motivated and persistent in facing challenges and setbacks.

Nitin also emphasizes the importance of acknowledging this setback and not avoiding or denying it to move forward. He provides several challenges that tested his motivation and determination. One such challenge was when he initially proposed to Misba, and she rejected his proposal.

Acknowledging setbacks

It was difficult to accept that his goal of being with Misba would not be easy. But it was only after he acknowledged this that he started exploring the reasons behind Misba’s rejection and how to address them.

Another important factor that the author discusses is the role of mindset and attitude in overcoming obstacles. A growth mindset, which is characterized by the belief that we can continually learn and improve, can be a powerful tool in dealing with setbacks and failures. By adopting a growth mindset, we can reframe setbacks and failures as opportunities for learning and growth rather than as permanent setbacks that define us. This can help us stay motivated and persist in the face of challenges.

In addition to mindset and attitude, the author also stresses the importance of seeking support and guidance when facing setbacks and failures. This can come in the form of mentorship, friends and loved ones, or other resources such as support groups or therapy. Seeking support can help us feel less alone in our struggles and provide valuable guidance and perspective as we navigate challenges and setbacks.

Another important step in dealing with setbacks and failures is reframing them in a positive light. This can be a powerful tool for staying motivated and on track. Nitin discusses the different setbacks he faced after having a conversation with Misba’s father, who made it clear that he disapproved of their relationship. Nitin could have let this rejection discourage him, but instead, he chose to reframe it as an opportunity to learn and grow. He sought out new sources of information and support, such as the book “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind,” and worked on developing new skills and strategies.

Nitin also emphasizes the importance of setting new goals and taking action toward them in the face of setbacks and failures. This can involve setting specific, achievable goals that build upon our previous successes and failures, and taking small, consistent steps towards these goals. By setting and working towards new goals, we can stay motivated and focused and ultimately achieve success despite the challenges and setbacks we may face.

An interesting strategy that the Author employs is to continue doing the small things he enjoys, even in the face of setbacks. For example, he continues to meet his friends, play games, and watch movies even though he struggles with his inability to connect with Misba due to her house arrest. This helps him stay motivated and connected to his goal rather than giving up and moving on to something else.

When faced with setbacks or failures, it can be tempting to become stuck in a particular way of thinking or behaving that may not effectively address the problem at hand. Nitin describes Behavioural Flexibility as the capacity to adjust one’s actions, thoughts, and communication styles in order to navigate different situations and achieve one’s goals effectively.

Finally, Nitin also discusses the role of celebrating small victories in dealing with setbacks and failures is to celebrate small victories. During the phase where Misba is under house arrest, even though the Author has to wait for weeks to get a glimpse of her, he doesn’t let the pain of waiting come in the way of enjoying those moments when he gets to see her. It is important to realize that even when there are setbacks after setbacks, there will be moments in between when you have made progress, and it is important to acknowledge and enjoy that progress.


In summary, everyone faces obstacles on their journey to achieving their goals. To stay motivated and persistent, it’s important to adopt a growth mindset, get support and guidance, and set new goals. “Destiny of Choice” offers strategies to help overcome these obstacles and reach success. I highly recommend reading this book to gain a better understanding of how to navigate setbacks and reach your goals.